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How Sex Toys Affect Your Relationship

"Couples Who Use Vibrators Communicate More"

Couples sex toys can add a lot to your sex life, but what about your relationship? While some couples find introducing sex toys into the bedroom intimidating, others look to sex toys for couples as the surefire way to heat things up in bed. But what does added pleasure do for your bond? Turns out, a lot.

When a sex toy company launched their product, a sex toy that allows couples to enjoy it together and apart, thanks to an app that can be downloaded to your phone, the tide of sex toys changed. And now, they’ve added a new one to the mix, the world’s first adjustable couples vibrator. This, of course, is great news because, as we all know, when it comes to body parts, one size doesn’t exactly fit all.

The design allows the user to customize the product to fit in order to achieve both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Because you’re in control of making toy fit just right for you and your partner, the company says the product will be able to stay in place no matter the sex position you choose, or if you change from one position to the next. And, like their other couples products, the app lets partners play when they’re apart; even a world apart. It also lets you vibe to the rhythm of your favorite music, because who hasn’t wanted to feel the vibration of Neutral Milk Hotel between their legs?

To celebrate the launch the company recently conducted a study of 1,000 men and women, between the ages of 35 and 55, to see how sex toys affect their relationships and what they want more of in the bedroom. Here’s what they found.

1. The Majority Of People Use Sex Toys To keep Their Sex Life Spicy

According to the study, 82 percent of those surveyed make a valiant effort to keep their sex life as exciting as possible. You can’t stick to one or two positions forever and not start to get a little bored. That’s where toys, for 52 percent of couples, come in to save the day.

2. Almost 50 Percent Of People Are Using Sex Toys To Liven Up Their Sex Lives

Not that you should be super surprised, because sex toys are more mainstream than ever, but the study found that 45 percent of people incorporate toys into their sex life to keep things exciting, which is great news! Not just for the sex toy industry, of course, but because toys really do enhance pleasure and sexual exploration.

3. Using Vibrators Make Couples Communicate More

Of those who participated in the study, 49 percent of couples who use vibrators report communicating often, whether it be about sex or other subjects. In contrast, of those who don’t use vibrators, only 29 percent of couples could report the same level of openness and communication.

4. Couples Who Use Sex Toys Are Better At Giving Direction To Their Partners

In addition to communicating, when it comes to great sex, couples also need to be able to give direction. Twenty-nine percent of couples who use vibrators have zero qualms about giving their partner directions in bed. As for those who don’t use vibrators, only 17 percent are able to comfortably guide their partners in the right direction.

5. Just The Act Of Buying A Sex Toy May Increase Communication

According to the study, buying a sex toy — any type of sex toy — is connected with more communication between partners. I mean, if you’re making the purchase together, you do need to be pretty open about what you want and what you don’t want. The survey found that 51 percent of those who bought sex toys talk “often” or “very often” about sex, whereas only 28 percent of those who have not bought a sex toy could attest to communicating about sex.

6. Most Couples Rely On New Positions To Keep Sex Exciting

Although there are those couples (52 percent) who will throw sex toys into the mix to keep things spicy, most just stick to new sex positions. According to the study, 77 percent of couples try to make sex “more exciting” by trying different positions.

7. The Minority Of Couples Felt Their Sex Lives Could Be Improved

For 38 percent of respondents, more sex would make their sex lives better. But for those who were content with the amount of sex they were having, what they really wanted was change and better quality sex. Of those surveyed 28 percent wanted better sex with their partner and 28 percent wanted to “change” sex with their partner. As for what that “change” was, (although it might be safe to assume it was to make it more exciting), the respondents didn’t say.

8. Over 60 Percent Of Couples Think More Foreplay Is The Way To Go

For 62 percent of couples, the most exciting way to make things more fun in the bedroom is by extending foreplay. Although the study didn’t say how long these couples are focusing on foreplay (although let’s really hope for at least 30 minutes), the fact is that foreplay is getting the attention it deserves. Finally.

4 Women Get Real About When, Where, and How They Use Sex Toys

When did you get your first vibrator?

Woman A: I got my first vibrator as a gag Secret Santa gift from a coworker friend at my high school job at a pizza place!

Woman B: I was 21, in college. My best friend and I went to a friend’s birthday/sex toy party, you know, where they have a lady there who explains all the toys she has and then you can buy them. I was super drunk. And we all bought vibrators. Fun!

Woman C: I was 22 or 23, the year or so after graduating college.

Woman D: I was 21. My boyfriend at the time bought it for me at the checkout counter of a sex toy shop.

What kind was it?

Woman A: It was glow in the dark, the cheap wand kind you get from Spencer’s.

Woman B: Ack, I can’t even remember. It was similar to the rabbit? I think it might have been an imitation.

Woman C: It was the pink butterfly kiss vibrator.

Woman D: It was a tiny $14 bullet vibe, three settings, hard plastic.

Was getting it a positive experience?

Woman A: It was a fun gift to receive — I didn’t have to go buy one myself! — but my mom found it in my backpack and yelled at me about it. Weird, since she’s pretty sex-positive.

Woman B: I mean, it was OK. I didn’t really use it that often. It felt depressing to use instead of a man.

Woman C: Purchasing it was uncomfortable — I didn’t want to go into a brick and mortar store or order online from a sex shop in case the packaging was obvious, so I ordered one online from Drugstore.com to stay conspicuous. Once it arrived it was a positive experience!

Woman D: It was a strange experience. Already I was out of my comfort zone being at the sex toy shop in the first place, but we were there to get him a new butt plug and to find a harness that would fit me. The whole education of sex toys was too much at once that day, but him buying that treat for me kind of felt like I had evolved into the next level of adulthood.

Had you had orgasms before you got it?

Woman A: Yep!

Woman B: Yes, all the time.

Woman C: Yes, but only my myself, not with a guy.

Woman D: Yes, I somehow managed to find the few good ones under the age of 25 who could give really good head.

How was it the first time you used it?

Woman A: I think the vibrations were a little too strong. Those cheap wand vibes feel really mechanical.

Woman B: Eh, I don’t think I had a better orgasm.

Woman C: It felt cool, different. I remember being worried I wouldn’t enjoy sex with a guy as much as it.

Woman D: System overload! It was almost too harsh a vibration to enjoy. But with a little careful maneuvering I learned to cherish it.

Is it more focused on clitoral or G-spot stimulation?

Woman A: Clitoral.

Woman B: It did both, but I wish I had gotten one that was only G-spot stimulation because I like doing the clitoris part myself. Maybe it’s because I’m a control freak? I’m even that way in bed with men. I mean, it’s hot to have my boyfriend fingering me during sex, but I’d honestly prefer to do it myself.

Woman C: Clitoral.

Woman D: It was made for clitoral stimulation.

Have you ever had a bad experience with a sex toy?

Woman A: Not really bad, but I’m not a fan of the rabbit-style vibes. G-spot stimulation makes me feel more like I have to pee than orgasm.

Woman B: Not really, because I don’t use them any more.

Woman C: Not yet, but I’ve only used a couple varieties.

Woman D: Yes. I wanted to get my first boyfriend a sex toy but not knowing what was a weird Spencer’s gag gift and what was a bonafide sex toy, I opted for the quickest and cheapest option: a penis ring. It was too small on him and inhibited my sexual pleasure since intercourse stopped at the ring.

Do you use dildos? Why/why not?

Woman A: No, I have male partners and I’ve never wanted another penetrable in the mix, and I don’t use them by myself since I prefer clit simulation for solo activities.

Woman B: No, I prefer to use my hand.

Woman C: No, I don’t find them to be a turn on.

Woman D: Not on myself but on my partners, yes. I’d much rather have the real thing or just clitoral stimulation than a rubber or glass mallet pounding at my p*ssy.

Has a partner ever suggested using a sex toy you didn’t want to use?

Woman A: Not yet, knock on wood!

Woman B: Nope, I think I’d be pretty open to trying anything. But I’ve had pretty vanilla-y boyfriends, so they’ve never even suggested it.

Woman C: Partners have put the ideas in my head, but never forced usage on me. The encouragement has always been about finding ways to make me feel good.

Woman D: Yes, my ex had a collection of xxl dildos for his ass and liked me to wear them on a harness. It wasn’t the pegging that I felt uncomfortable with, one was so ungodly massive it hurt me emotionally to use it on him. I thought I was going to hurt him!

Do you feel like you enjoy non-sex-toy sex more or less since you started using sex toys?

Woman A: If anything, I enjoy non-sex-toy sex more. Toys feel really good but it’s enjoyable to feel that good with only biological toys!

Woman B: I definitely prefer non-sex-toy sex.

Woman C: I’d say both about the same. Both experiences can be really rewarding and feel amazing. Depends on the moods of my partner and myself.

Woman D: I definitely enjoy sex just as is, no toys, no vibes. I just feel it’s more intimate and personal. For me toys are a great way to occasionally spruce up a routine or to mark a special occasion.

Do you think it’s possible to use sex toys too often?

Woman A: Theoretically, since I’ve never heard of this problem. Like anything, I think if it gets in the way, it might become a problem.

Woman B: Ha, no. Definitely not. I mean, was that SATC episode supposed to be based on real life? Had Charlotte never had a good orgasm before? I thought that was so weird. I mean, if you’ve never had a good orgasm before and you’re 35 and you get one from a sex toy, I think you should be blowing off all your friends all the time to use it. You’re simply making up for lost time.

Woman C: If it feels good for you, then no! As long it’s not replacing intimacy or sex with a partner if you’re in a relationship.

Woman D: I will say I feel differently when it comes to solo sex. I do not think it is possible for one to use sex toys too much on just themselves.

Do you use anal sex toys?

Woman A: Nope.

Woman B: I wish.

Woman C: I do not.

Woman D: Not on myself.

Have your partners known that you have a sex toy?

Woman A: I think so.

Woman B: Yes. My college boyfriend knew about the vibrator.

Woman C: Yes.

Woman D: I don’t have a massive collection, maybe 1-2 vibrators, all quite small. (I’m working on amassing my collection still). But yes, all serious partners knew I had a toy.

How have they felt about it?

Woman A: Haven’t minded at all. Probably they were turned on by it!

Woman B: He didn’t care and thought it was hot.

Woman C: Excited about it. Encouraging. My current boyfriend just sent me a new one since he’s currently deployed and not physically with me. It makes him feel like he’s part of what makes me feel good, despite not being around.

Woman D: They were always 100% supportive of my having a sex toy. In a way, I think it intimidates them. Like, they know that when they go back home, I will still be taken care of. Makes them try harder next time we’re in bed.

Do you enjoy using a vibrator or sex toy, or your hand or a pillow or whatever more?

Woman A: I enjoy a vibrator more because it feels better, but my hand will never fail me and it’s silent!

Woman B: I prefer my hand.

Do you have a better chance of coming by using a vibrator or having oral/vaginal sex with a person?

Woman A: A vibrator is a no-fail orgasm for me, but having intercourse is almost a guarantee since my broken vibe hasn’t been replaced.

Woman B: I can come either way. I prefer to be with a person.

Woman C: Vibrator.

Woman D: Since oral varies so drastically by the person, experience says I’m more likely to come with a vibrator. But if you get that right person who knows your vagina and clit like a butter knife knows jam and biscuits, who needs toys!

Have you used other kinds of sex toys?

Woman A: Yes! Vibrating cock rings and nipple clamps, if those count!

Woman B: No.

Woman C: Just vibrators.

Woman D: Yes, bondage toys, like nipple clamps, ball gags, floggers, etc.

Have you ever used sex toys during sex with your BF? Which ones?

Woman A: I think a small vibrator. It’s been awhile!

Woman C: Yup, I use them about 50% of the time with him, and 50% alone. I use the magic wand and the butterfly kiss.

Woman D: See above.

What would you recommend for a first vibrator?

Woman A: Absolutely the magic/silver bullet — it’s inexpensive, small, basically foolproof! Adjustable speed, and it’s just as good for using solo as with someone.

Woman B: I don’t know that I would recommend a vibrator. I think exploring with your hands teaches you more about yourself, etc. But you know, if a woman is really uncomfortable touching herself, I guess something like a rabbit that has vaginal and clitoral stimulation would be best.

Woman C: Something simple and easy to operate. Some of them look really intimidating and do a hundred different things. Really all you need is to figure out what works for you and find a toy that does that.

Woman D: Something soft to the touch, 10 different speeds and rhythms, small and silent.

Start Rocking Your World Using The Right Kind of Toys

Most of the women prefer sex toys such as a vibrator, comb, and other things as well. With the help of a vibrator, a woman can fulfill their fantasy. You should buy the sex toys and enhance the bonding with a partner.

Here we are talking about vibrator is one of the most popular sex toys because the vibrator can give you enough relaxation. If you are looking for the best sex toys, then it would be a daunting task. There are thousands of options available in the market. You can choose the vibrator in the different sizes, shapes, and colors as well. So you are buying Rock and roll themed sex toys for masturbation? Before buying any sex toy, you should ask a lot of question from yourself. Let’s discuss the important things that you should know while buying Rock and roll themed sex toys.

What kind of toy you want?

There are thousands of vibrators are out there such as a bullet, wireless and traditional vibrator, etc. if you have knowledge about the vibrator, then it would be an easier task for you whereas, it would be difficult for beginners. For instance, if you want affordable and easy to hide, then you should choose the bullet vibrator that will give you the best features.

Choose the size

Size will depend on your choice because there are so many options are out there. It would be better to choose two inches vibrator that can give you enough relaxation. However, grab the 5 to 7 inches wider vibrator.

Select the best power

Before buying the vibrator, you will have to check the power of the vibrator. Most of the vibrator can run via electricity or other uses batteries. However, it is recommended that you should prefer a rechargeable vibrator over other ones. If you are going with battery vibrator, then make sure that you are choosing AAA batteries. It is one of the most popular vibrators that are offering huge power.

What about materials?

Always choose the hard plastic vibrator that is quite better as compared to others. Most of the researchers, claims that these toys aren’t good for the internal use. Thus, you should prefer sex.